I'm a Badass with Boundaries! (Part 2)
Say it Again, Only This Time Louder
Hello, My Lovelies!
Welcome back to the second part of our transformative series, Badass with Boundaries! Today, we‘ll dive deeper into the power of boundaries and how they can revolutionize our lives. I hope that you’ve been able to practice reconnecting with your bodies over the past week and are feeling more in tune with yourself. Remember, setting boundaries is not just a practice; it's a transformative journey that empowers you to reclaim your time, energy, and power.
To recap last week’s material, as women, it can be difficult for our real Self to be recognized and nurtured. Instead, there’s a push to lose ourselves in others’ expectations and goals. Prioritizing our needs can become last on our list, largely due to guilt and shame. (In case you missed Part 1, you can catch up here.). It is easy to become side-tracked, over-committed, and over-stressed, making self-sabotaging decisions that undermine our interests.
Empowerment for women begins with setting healthy boundaries. It’s important to understand that these boundaries are not barriers or acts of selfishness; they’re acts of self-love. They’re the loving limits we set to protect our peace, honor our values, and nurture our well-being. By prioritizing our mental, emotional, and spiritual health, we create space for personal growth and fulfillment.
Setting healthy boundaries is a revolutionary act, empowering women to reclaim their time, energy, and power in a demanding world. Our happiness lies in the strength to say ‘yes’ to our truth and ‘no’ when needed. Let us recognize that saying ‘no’ is not a rejection but a powerful affirmation of our values. In nurturing healthy boundaries, we unlock the door to a life of authenticity, balance, and badass results for your empowered life.
Consider the airplane analogy: Prioritize putting on your oxygen mask before assisting others. If you allow yourself to become depleted, you won’t be good to yourself or your loved ones. Without boundaries, we risk losing ourselves in everything and anything. Boundaries define who we are and what we stand for. They communicate our self-worth and lovingly command respect for our needs. If you want to feel more centered, focused, safe, and in control of your life, start with this list below.
There are many different ways to build healthy boundaries in all areas of our lives; I will share a few of my favorites for a broad and easy start, tested and approved by yours truly ;)
1. Speak kindly to yourself. Every result you want to see in life starts from within. We will cover this topic in detail in the near future. How you treat yourself is how others will treat you. Monitor your self-talk and see where you can be a little kinder to yourself.
2. Know your personal core values. Take time to reflect, write them down, and then monitor how much you are living according to your own values.
3. Know what you want so you can build around it or lovingly defend it as required. Take time to self-reflect and write it down. Really be honest with yourself about what you want. Don’t start attacking what you “don’t” want in your life. Be fearless, even if you think it’s impossible.
4. Limit exposure to toxic influences. Evaluate relationships and environments that consistently undermine your values. Distancing yourself from toxic people or situations may be necessary. You’ll know this by how situations or people make you feel. If you feel crappy, it’s toxic.
5. Eliminate what drains you. A close cousin to #4. This is simple but not always easy. Begin to eliminate the things in your life that are draining your energy.
6. Increase what brings you joy. Make a list of the things that bring you joy and ensure your day is filled with more joy than drainers.
7. Learn to delegate: This is a big one, ladies. If you tend to take on too much, practice delegating tasks to others when possible. This can prevent burnout, avoid building resentment, and help maintain healthy boundaries around your time and energy. Stop overdoing (I mean that with love).
8. Prioritize self-care in your schedule—every. single. day. Listen, I get it. I know. Who has time for self-care? I was a single mom of two who, at one point, juggled a full-time career, a part-time military commitment, an evening part-time job, and a full college course load -all at once. I know how it is to be “too busy.” I have learned the fastest track to burnout is a lack of self-care, and the easiest way to run over yourself and allow others to run over you is a lack of self-care. Proper sleep, time for self-reflection, proper nutrition, exercise, and peaceful nighttime routines are just a few examples. When you prioritize self-care, you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how almost all these other suggestions naturally fall into place.
9. Relationship Boundaries: Click here for a great example of how to communicate your boundaries in a healthy way.
As always, I’m here if you want to chat and dive deeper into learning how to prioritize yourself with love.
I’ll see you all here next week, where I’m super excited to talk about what’s emerging in biofield therapy and its many health benefits for your life. Have a blessed Sunday!